This is definitely a post with some mature content. As with all of my blogs, they push the limits, explore different things, and perhaps make you squirm a little. My intention is to expose subjects, shed light, share insights and inspire you to stretch your mind.
I was intrigued a few weeks ago when my friend Kristina from Barbell Warrior blogged about (almost) climaxing during a WOD (workout of the day) at CrossFit.
Ok, more than intrigued.
This is what she wrote…
“…I was using a lot of core strength to keep everything in tight, and I started to feel tingling and hot. I pushed up to secure ring dip number 6, and being stubborn I of course went for 7. Dip down and trying with all my might to push back up, and the surge of physical sensation through my midsection was more than I could handle. I jumped off the rings and looked around in a panic: I had just almost climaxed.”
Reading blogs and articles about this years ago, and thinking ‘yeah, right’; it definitely seemed like a myth.
But it happened to someone I actually know! I HAD to write about it.
And as I wrote, it became more than just a post about ‘coregasms’.
It’s become an exploration of practices, culture and views on women and sexuality.
What is a ‘coregasm’?
Well, obviously it’s an orgasm from your core. Core muscles contract, tense, tighten. The body responds, releasing endorphins, dopamine, seratonin….bang. Orgasm.
What do the ‘sexperts’ say?
There’s a lot of conflicting information. Some claim it’s a strong pelvic floor, others claim it’s endorphins being released combined with tension in the leg muscles. Women who’ve experienced it claim it’s instant, and happens regularly.
Some can make it happen numerous times during a workout, and some claim to workout just because of it. That’s motivation!
There are numerous websites dedicated to ‘The Coregasm Workout’, and even YouTube videos about it. It’s mentioned in books, magazines and there are forums filled with ‘how to’s’.
One thing I noticed throughout my research, was the amount of fitness magazines and blogs posting about it, in a quite matter-of-fact way. It kind of made me feel disappointed. Like those of us who had missed out were somewhat excluded from an elusive club that only the super strong and fit get to join.
Now that’s not a dig at those who work out.
Not at all. But I’ve lifted. I’ve squatted. I’ve yoga-d. I’ve done it all. I’ve just never joined the ‘coregasm club’. And I don’t think I’m alone. (Would love to hear below if you’re one of the lucky ones! Don’t be shy!)
Let’s move beyond the gym.
Let’s head to the bedroom.
Let’s go deep.
30% of women struggle to reach orgasms (according to Planned Parenthood). This figure could be higher, or lower, because isn’t it kind of a taboo? Especially in certain cultures and religious groups, where sex, sexuality and let’s face it, being a woman, is shunned, cast aside, frowned upon.
In the media of late, female genital mutilation (FGM) has been in the spotlight. Called ‘Female Circumcision’ this horrific practice includes “all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons“.
A practice shrouded in mystery for many hundreds of years in cultures across Asia, the Middle East, and Africa.
I worked with a girl who had been a victim of her culture. She was African, beautiful, with glowing dark skin, and the biggest smile of white teeth I’d ever seen. She spoke her native tongue and dialect, English (perfect English!), Italian and French. She was well travelled, and was nurse. She’d moved away from her birthplace at 15. At 13 she had been mutilated. Without anaesthetic. She was taken to a ‘sacred’ space for women, and not only cut, but also ‘sewn up’. Yes, it’s exactly what you think it is.
We worked for about 4 years together, and she complained for years of excruciating pain and smells. She was rotting inside. She suffered infections, inflammation and was in her late thirties and had never had a partner.
I had completely forgotten about it, until I saw a news story on the 7.30 Report about mass circumcisions in Java. And then reading this afterwards, my blood boiling.
How is this still happening today? I KNOW how lucky I am to have been born in Australia. I get that being born to my educated, open-minded and outspoken parents means that I’ve been sheltered from such practices. But there are many who aren’t.
These girls have no say. Their culture runs so deep inside, twisted truths, misconceptions and assumptions.
Any truth to any of it? Probably not. Is there science to back up their practices? None that I’ve found. Cultures dictated by men? Yep.
For too long, our views on the female orgasm have been mired in misconceptions based on old-fashioned ideas of how women should behave. Science just doesn’t bear most of it out.
The truth is, very little research has ever been done into women’s sexuality. And what research was done, for example by Masters and Johnson in the Fifties — the ‘pioneers’ who recorded some of the first laboratory data on the anatomy and physiology of human sexual response — was very heavily influenced by the culture of the time, which assumed that women didn’t really enjoy sex. – Real Cougar Women
I’ve written about my support of Clitoraid before. Clitoraid is a non-profit organisation, helping women in a dignified, private and caring manner, who have been subject to FGM. They are opening up a hospital in March that will offer free surgeries to women to help repair their genitals that have been mutilated.
I encourage you to be educated and aware of this practice.
But there’s still such a disconnect. There’s so many things that we don’t know, won’t talk about, are afraid to share. We may carry shame, fear, disgust (?) and confusion about our bodies from such a young age. How can we mesh science and spirituality together? How can we be brave and accepting? How can we acknowledge our bodies?
Some information that really blew me away, was discovered by Professor Beverly Whipple at Rutgers University. In 2004, she found how some women with spinal injuries can have orgasms simply by thinking themselves into the mood.
Just by thinking themselves into the mood.
Sexuality is not a sin. It’s spiritual and powerful.
Sexual energy is POWERFUL, and for me an orgasm is the closest thing I can describe to the feeling of union with our God Self. When all of our chakras are purified enough for divine energy to flow through each one of them, our crown chakra and higher chakras open and expand and a powerful euphoric blissful energy flows through our entire being. It is pure ecstasy……orgasmic, but not orgasmic in only the lower chakras, but it is a full chakra orgasm based on pure unconditional love. It is lovingly expansive, and will change you forever. – How to raise your vibration
I want to help blow the lid. I want to open your mind and your eyes. I want you to speak out against atrocities in the World, and I want you to step up into your own power, as a woman or a man, and embrace every part of your body. I want you to love it, use it wisely, be aware of it. Be grateful.
I encourage you to share this with your friends and family. As one person our voice may be small, but as a collective, we will be heard.
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